It's not the load that will tire you, it's how you carry it.
As wonderfully free thinking human beings we have the uncanny ability to make things heavier than need be for ourselves. Don't get me wrong there are definitely moments in life that are #HeavyAF. Losing a job, financial worries, breaking up with a partner..... you get the idea. But, as free thinkers we do have the special gift of choosing our mindset and our tone. The way we think about and act in these moments is pivotal to our mental heath while going through struggles and is directly linked to our resiliency afterwards. We can either turn up the volume or provide ourselves some ease.
Even in the largest, most soul churning moments we CAN decide how to treat ourselves. Allowing for pleasure, fuck... better yet seeking it out is numero uno. Being soft, accepting and kind with yourself are also incredible ways of lessening the load. Viewing moments like these as areas for expansion rather than destruction can be an extremely helpful shift in mindset.
The previous examples are meta in scale, but the same life lessons hold true for the tiny microscopic interactions that rule our daily lives. One example that comes screaming to mind is ME + WRITING. I have (it's a work in progress) the tendency to create undue heaviness around approaching a writing task. My head can swirl with unproductive thoughts. Is what I write any good? Will people want to read it? Do I make sense? Is my voice important? The list goes on. What I've practiced doing in these moments is shifting my mindset into one that serves me. Viewing the activity as a beautiful chance for self-expression, one not all people have. "F" all the rest of the noise #amirite. This mindset shift is powerful because it takes away the anxiety over the task and allows me to feel empowered and ready for action.
That's a beautiful thing 🙏🏻 my People!
I'm sure you can think of a few activities in your daily life that you make heavier than need be just by the thoughts you attach to them. Next time, think to yourself.... "is there a different way I can view this?" Another powerful tool is asking yourself HOW you want to feel about a particular thing (life event, task, person) and trying to create that with your mindset and actions versus simplying allowing the situation to take over that control. Shit, going to the Post Office can be an adventure....if you frame it that way!
Mindset shifts aren't the only tool in the toolbox. It's extremely important that we stay vigilant over the tone and words we choose, both in our own self talk and in free conversation with others. You can say the same sentence using two different tones and the energy will make a palpable shift. Wanna try? Let's use the simple statement "I have to go the gym". First, use a tone that is upbeat (or even normal). Then, say it again with a depressed affect.... make it heavy. How does your mood feel after each version? Which one makes you actually FEEL like going to the gym?? Now amplify that concept to a REAL DEAL life struggle and damn... don'tcha think you'd wanna just CHOOSE the positivity because it feels better? It's not easy. It's definitely a practice. But, one that pays dividends when employed.
Choosing a tone and mindset that is kind and loving to yourself is essential because it fosters progress and forward momentum. It will also lighten your load especially in the life
moments that simply bring you to your knees. Or, in the day to day aspects of life that can lead to burnout.
Try to create a daily practice of being kind to yourself. Challenge yourself to view struggle as an opportunity for growth there is so much wisdom, power, and well.... fucking happiness there!